Dating an emotionally abused man
If you’ve never been involved with a cunning, pathological lying, narcissistic, abusive partner, you may not know what you’re dealing with.
When you date an abusive personality, you may buy into his charm, braggadocio, and phony façade while downplaying his inconsiderate and questionable behavior.
By the time many people notice the obvious red flags, they're already attached to an abuser, which makes it much harder for them to leave the relationship.
More useful than a list of obvious red flags are guidelines based onof a potentially abusive relationship, signs that are visible before an attachment bond is formed.
And until you see the truth for yourself, no one else can help you realize it. It’s been said that if you drop a frog in boiling water, it would jump out immediately.
But if you place a frog in a pot of tepid water and start to boil the water very slowly, the frog would continue to stay in the pot of water until it boils to death.
[Read: 16 abusive relationship signs and traits of a devious lover] Emotional abuse is easy to overlook Reality and our interpretation of reality are completely different and subjective.
You would believe you’re being emotionally abused only if you convince yourself of that truth.
Surprisingly, some are not even aware that the way they are currently being treated is considered abusive.Very Early Warning Sign #1: A Blamer Avoid anyone who blames his negative feelings and bad luck on someone else.Special care is necessary here, as blamers can be really seductive in dating.There are obvious red flags to avoid in a prospective lover, such as angry, controlling, possessive, jealous, or violent behavior.
Unfortunately, most abusers are able to mask these tendencies in dating.
The following is a list of qualities to look for in a potential lover. Note: During the early stages of your relationship, your partner is not likely to do any of these things to you.